“I think we are well-advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not. Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 a.m. of a bad night and demand to know who deserted them, who betrayed them, who is going to make amends. We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget. We forget the loves and the betrayals alike, forget what we whispered and what we screamed, forget who we were.”—Joan Didion, Slouching Towards Bethlehem (via perfect)
“I am losing precious days. I am degenerating into a machine for making money. I am learning nothing in this trivial world of men. I must break away and get out into the mountains to learn the news.”—John Muir (via explore-everywhere)
“People hate that I flip two cigarettes
Upside down in each pack
But I hate that people notice
When you gain three pounds,
But not when you buy a new hat.
I’ve been told that the way I sleep
With one leg draped over
The person lying next to me
But I think it’s annoying
When people tell me
I look pretty,
But only when I paint my face.
I’ve heard that old men
Like to touch the girls who work late at bars,
But I want to know
Why they never kiss the women they married
fourty-two years ago.
I’ve noticed that mothers teach their daughters
That it’s rude to refuse a hug
From an uncle they’ve met three times,
But forget to teach them
That they aren’t obliged to kiss
The boy who paid for dinner.”—(via wellbothdrinkanddrive)
“What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.”—Chuck Palahniuk, Choke (via ragiondicredere)
“I don’t belong here. I know that. But I don’t belong anywhere else, either. And that is at the heart of the black depression pressing down on me, flattening me. I have no place. No home. Sex, but no real affection. I am kept, but not cherished.”—Ellen Hopkins, Tricks (via quotes-shape-us)
“There is always something peaceful and calming about the beach. The way it allows you to take in its beauty. It’s like the ocean knows all your deepest, darkest secrets and thoughts. It doesn’t judge you; instead, at that very moment all the pain and sadness you feel just drifts away along with the waves.”— E.L. Montes, Disastrous (via the-healing-nest)
“Life is a question of nerves, and fibres, and slowly built-up cells in which thought hides itself and passion has its dreams. You may fancy yourself safe and think yourself strong. But a chance tone of colour in a room or a morning sky, a particular perfume that you had once loved and that brings subtle memories with it, a line from a forgotten poem that you had come across again, a cadence from a piece of music that you had ceased to play… I tell you, that it is on things like these that our lives depend.”—Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray (via larmoyante)
“One day, he’s going to know. He’ll know your birthday, your middle name, where you were born, your star sign, and your parents names. He’ll know how old you were when you learned to ride a bike, how your grandparents passed away, how many pets you had, and how much you hated going to school. He’ll know your eye colour, your scars, your freckles, your laugh lines and your birth marks. He’ll know your favourite book, movie, candy, food, pair of shoes, colour, and song. He’s going to know why you’re awake at 5am most nights, where you were when you realised you’d lost a good friend, why you picked up the razor and how you managed to put it down before things went too far. He’s going to know your phobias, your dreams, your fears, your wishes, and your worries. He’s going to know about your first heartbreak, your dream wedding, and your problems with your parents. He’ll know your strengths, weaknesses, laziness, energy, and your mixed emotions. He’s going to know about your love for mayonnaise, your dream of being famous when you were five, your need to quote any film you know all the way through, and your fear of growing older. He’ll know your bad habits, your mannerisms, your stroppy pout, your facial expressions, and your laugh like it’s his favourite song. The way you chew, drink, walk, sleep, fidget and kiss. He’s going to know that you’ve already picked out wedding flowers, baby names, tiles for the bathroom, bridesmaid dresses, and the colour of your bedroom walls. He’s going to know, get annoyed at and then accept that you leave clothes everywhere, take twenty minutes to order a Starbucks, have to organise your DVD’s alphabetically, and check your horoscope… just incase. He’ll know your McDonald’s order, how many sugars to put in your tea, how many scoops of ice cream you want, and that you need your sandwiches cut into triangles. He’s going to know how you feel without you telling him, that you need a wee from a look on your face, and that you’re crying without shedding tears. He’s going to know all of it. Everything. You, from top to bottom and inside out. From learning, from sharing, from listening, from watching. He’s going to know every single thing there is to know, and you know what else? He is still going to love you.”—Anson (via olivia-ross)
“1. Internships are the building blocks of your résumé. Apply to them. Meet people.
2. Choose a degree that is relevant to the real world. Minor in History if you love it so much.
3. Everyone knows how to use Microsoft Office. Putting it under the “Skills” section of your résumé is not impressive.
4. See the world. This is the only time you have in your life to spend months in a foreign country. Take advantage of your lack of responsibility to travel.
5. 99.9% of employers will never look at your transcript. A 4.0 GPA will not land you a job. Good interpersonal skills might.
6. No employer cares whether you were on the executive board of your fraternity or sorority or other campus organization. Serve the organization because you love it, not simply to use it as space-filler on your résumé.
7. Proofread everything. Twice. Or else no one will believe that you’re “detial-oriented.”
8. You have four (or five) years to make something of yourself. Use that time wisely.
9. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday night despite having a test on Wednesday. The test won’t matter in ten years, but your friendships will.
10. Do not expect the college senior to fall in love with you after you sleep together. Actually, just don’t sleep together. This will not end well.
11. Really get to know your professors. Use office hours to your advantage. You never know what doors they can open for you.
12. Graduate school is rarely a good idea, especially if you’re only using it to delay the real world for a few years. The more money you make now, the less debt you’ll have later.
13. Realize that you will be in debt until you’re forty. Make peace with this early.
14. One bad grade won’t ruin your life. Get over yourself.
15. Beware of credit cards. No matter what they say, money isn’t free.
16. Don’t burn bridges. You never know when you might need help from someone.
17. Eat good food. Nothing will make you feel worse than six straight nights of Ramen.
18. Buy a plunger before you actually need said plunger. Just trust me on this one.
19. Press save. It will keep you from having that 4:00am mental breakdown.
20. All-nighters will not help you learn the material. Budget time throughout the day to study so that you can actually sleep before the final exam.
21. Use a condom. No one wants that “I’m late” text.
22. Work during the summers. Employers want someone with real-life experience.
23. Call your mom once a week. She wants to stay involved in your life, and a twenty-minute phone conversation won’t kill you.
24. You have four years to learn your alcohol limit. This will save you from puking at the office Christmas party.
25. The college cafeteria will make you fat. So will alcohol. Be careful about what you’re putting into your body.
26. Find a few hours each week to work out. Cardio is great stress relief.
27. So is sex. Booty calls are sometimes necessary. Don’t beat yourself up for it in the morning.
28. Learn to cook. Eating out is expensive and unhealthy. A few basics can last you a long time.
29. Take pictures. Not everything has to be posted to Instagram, but you will want to have these memories documented.
30. Volunteer. Not because you have to, but because you want to. The Humane Society always needs people to play with the animals.
31. Learn how to budget. Your parents won’t be around to give you money forever.
32. Buy shower shoes. Use them. Save yourself from foot fungus.
33. Beer is expensive. Buy vodka.
34. Interviews are nerve-wracking. Practice with a friend before you go.
35. Find good references. They can be the difference between being offered your dream job and being turned down.
36. It’s okay to turn down your first job offer to wait for a better one. Have faith in yourself.
37. If you’re treated like a slave at your internship, it’s okay to leave. Find a company that sees your worth.
38. Learn how to code HTML. This is an invaluable skill.
39. Also learn Photoshop. Every company in the world needs someone who can design a poster.
40. Take a couple classes just for fun. There’s a difference between smart and educated.
41. Know your priorities. Stick to them.
42. Start searching for a job a year before you graduate. It takes time to find something you want.
43. Apply for jobs you may not be completely qualified for. You may be the only applicant.
44. Don’t get too discouraged when you fail at something. Lay in bed for two days. Cry. Then get back up and start living again.
45. Everyone has something to teach you. Listen to them.
46. Make mistakes, but be sure to learn from them.
47. Textbooks are expensive and you will never need them again. Rent, don’t buy.
48. No one will ever care how wasted you were last night. They saw it first hand. Shut up.
49. No one is responsible for you except you. Think twice before you do something.
50. Don’t think that these have to be the best four years of your life. Life after graduation is pretty awesome too.”—50 Things I Wish I Knew in College (via cultivate-solitude)